The Gay Canon

My geeky, Pokemon Go loving friend Mick came out not too long ago, and I got the idea to make him a list of my personal “gay canon” of films and TV (with a few books thrown in for good measure).  I sent him this list on the occasion of this past weekend’s Pride celebration in his hometown of Manchester, England.

Armie Hammer and Timothy Chalamet in Call Me By Your Name

Philadelphia (1993)—It may play as outdated now, but Jonathan Demme’s drama, the first studio movie about AIDS, is a significant time capsule and features a terrific Oscar winning performance by Tom Hanks as a gay lawyer who sues his firm for firing him when they learn he has the disease.  Denzel Washington is equally strong as the initially homophobic lawyer who represents him on the case, and it’s a compelling and undeniably affecting tear jerker.  The soundtrack, featuring Bruce Springsteen’s award winning ballad “Streets of Philadelphia” as well as Neil Young, Peter Gabriel, and the Indigo Girls, is also terrific.

Laura Linney and Olympia Dukakis in the original Tales of the City

Tales of the City (1993-2019)—Armistead Maupin’s saga of the lives and loves of straight and queer San Franciscans isn’t just one of my favorite gay series, it’s one of my favorite things, period.  The original 70s-set miniseries brilliantly captured the excitement and uncertainty of living on your own for the first time, as Mary Anne Singleton (a terrific Laura Linney) moves into a magical apartment complex lorded over by sage transgender landlady Anna Madrigal (Olympia Dukakis, sublime) and becomes fast friends with adorably wide-eyed Michael “Mouse” Tolliver and acerbic, frizzy haired omnisexual Mona, who memorably melts down in a board meeting with a snooty client by bellowing “crotch, crotch, CROTCH!!!!”  The three original series—Tales, More Tales, and Further Tales—possess an irresistible mixture of soapy shenanigans and genuine heart.  Later, un-filmed books in the series included Babycakes, the first work of fiction to address AIDS, Significant Others, Sure of You, Michael Tolliver Lives, and Mary Anne in Autumn. All are worth reading, and this year’s Tales of the City, while not a direct adaptation of any of them, incorporates elements and characters while perfectly updating the franchise for the 21st century.  (Just try not to think about how Linney and the other returning players are nowhere near old enough to have aged forty years since the originals.)  The newest installment pays particular care to the trans characters, including casting trans actress Jen Richards as a young Ana Madrigal in a captivating flashback episode.


The Broken Hearts Club (2000)—A friend once mocked this film, written and directed by future TV mega producer Greg Berlanti, as the story of a young man who becomes enmeshed in a world of shallow West Hollywood gayness.  There’s some truth to that, but Broken Hearts Club is still an entertaining, occasionally affecting, and trailblazing comedy about the lives and loves of a group of gay friends.  There’s an inspired bit of casting with TV Superman Dean Cain as a man-eating lothario, plus lots of retroactive recognition with Timothy Olyphant, Justin Theroux, Zach Braff, and Billy Porter in the mix.  John Mahoney shines as the mother hen of this squabbling but ultimately loving and supportive group.


Queer As Folk (2000-2005)—Let me start by admitting I never watched the British original—set in Manchester, appropriately enough—and have heard it’s great, and maybe superior.  But QAF, as fans in the know called it, was an endearing if occasionally dopey and maddening soap opera that portrays “boys becoming men” in that well known American gay capitol… Pittsburgh.  The whole cast is great, but Peter Paige is transcendent as unapologetically queeny Emmett, and Robert Gant is charming and extremely sexy as HIV positive professor Ben.

John Cameron Mitchell as Hedwig

Hedwig and the Angry Inch (2001)—John Cameron Mitchell directs and stars in this brilliant, intensely cinematic rock musical about a “little wisp of a girlie boy” who escapes East Germany via a botched sex change operation for the promise of a better life in America.  Abandoned by his would be sugar daddy, Hedwig falls in love with Tommy, a teenage Jesus freak, then winds up stalking him across the country when Tommy gets famous off the songs they co-created and embarks on a national tour.  The songs are terrific, the performances are outstanding, and one liners abound in this sardonically funny, moving film.  It’s considered somewhat problematic in these more enlightened times, but I think its genuine heart and innovation outweigh any such concerns.  Mitchell has gone on record stating he doesn’t consider it a representation of the transgender experience, a sentiment with which many would agree.

Mary Louise Parker and Justin Kirk are some of the disparate souls whose worlds collide in Angels in America

Angels in America (2003)—Mike Nichols’s made for HBO adaptation of Tony Kushner’s epic “Gay Fantasia on National Themes” puts most feature films to shame for sheer ambition and cinematic art.  An indomitable cast led by Al Pacino and Meryl Streep breathe life into this elaborate work of magical realism, which dramatizes the anguish and inspiration of the AIDS crisis and a particular moment in queer Manhattan.  It’s a really extraordinary and engrossing production.  Related: I’ve always wanted to see the two part play live. Maybe you’ll get the chance sometime.


Brokeback Mountain (2005)—Ang Lee’s heartbreaking shoulda-been Best Picture is certainly depressing, but it’s a sublimely crafted and essential film in queer cinema history.  Heath Ledger was rightly praised for his tormented ranch hand Ennis Del Mar, but the entire cast is first rate, including Jake Gyllenhaal as his lover Jack Twist (swoon), and Michelle Williams and Anne Hathaway as their long-suffering wives.  The cinematography and Oscar winning music are excellent, too.  Related: Annie Proulx’s gorgeous short story.

The L Word stars Leisha Hailey and Kathering Moennig

The L Word (2004-2009)—The trailblazing saga of the lives and loves of lesbians—and occasional straight women and trans folk—in very glamorous Los Angeles could be all over the place, but it was never boring and often moving.  A strong, almost entirely female cast (many writers, directors, and crew members were women as well) portrayed women’s struggles with sex, relationships, monogamy, family, and, um, the high stakes world of lesbian poker (?!).  There were some missteps—the cynical and unnecessary killing off of a beloved character, iffy trans storylines—but this was still an addicting and often rewarding series. The L Word: Generation Q , a “woke” revival with original cast members Jennifer Beals, Leisha Hailey, and Katherine Moennig (my favorite character, womanizer with a heart of gold Shane) is coming in December, so cram now!

Left to right: Emile Hirsch, Kelvin Han Yee, Sean Penn, Alison Pill, and Joseph Cross in Milk

Milk (2008)—One of the best biopics ever made, Gus Van Sant’s dramatization of the brief career of America’s first openly gay elected official is perfect in every aspect.  The performances are uniformly excellent: Sean Penn rightly won an Oscar as Harvey Milk, a darkly compelling Josh Brolin plays troubled assassin Dan White, and a luminous Emile Hirsch brings sass to budding activist Cleve Jones.  The film makes great use of San Francisco locations and balances character with story.  Despite a tragic ending, it remains buoyantly hopeful and inspiring.  Related: Randy Shilts’ book The Mayor of Castro Street and Cleve Jones’ memoirs Stitching a Revolution and When We Rise.


Call Me By Your Name (2017)—There was backlash and criticism of the age disparity in this celebrated gay romance, but the beauty and eroticism of Luca Guadagnino’s film is undeniable.  Timothy Chalamet is sexy and utterly convincing as the teen who finds himself inextricably drawn to Armie Hammer’s hunky grad student one sumptuous summer in Northern Italy.  Dad Michael Stuhlbarg’s speech to his heartbroken son is one for the ages, and Sufjan Stevens’ songs, as well as a needle drop of the Psychedelic Furs’ “Love My Way,” provide the perfect accompaniment.

Left to right: Ryan Jamaal Swain, Angel Bismark Curiel, Indya Moore, and MJ Rodriguez on Pose

Pose (2018-Present) — I consider this the best thing Ryan Murphy has ever done.  He and creative partner Brad Falchuk were smart in teaming up with Steven Canals to offer an authentic point of view on the world of Ballroom culture.  Pose applies somewhat formulaic, crowd pleasing tropes to characters that have never before been the center of a narrative.  The record-breaking number of trans, queer, and people of color in the cast make this a show that finally centers non-whites in the LGBT community.  The series also serves as a history lesson, especially as it delves into the devastating AIDS epidemic and dramatizes real-life incidents like a “die-in” at St. Patrick’s Cathedral. Related: the coming of age musical Saturday Church, co-starring Pose’s MJ Rodriguez and Indya Moore.

The Geeks OUT Podcast: Thworping to the Darkside

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In this week’s episode of the Geeks OUT Podcast, Kevin is joined by the VP of Geeks OUT, Steve Gianaca as they discuss Marvel continuing to tease a gay character in Eternals, the new Steven Universe movie trailer, and celebrate Linda Hamilton in the new Terminator: Dark Fate trailer for our Strong Female Character of the Week.

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BIG OPENING

KEVIN: New trailer for AHS: 1984
STEVE: Steven Universe new Toonami trailer

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DOWN AND NERDY

KEVIN: Young Justice: Outsiders, Twelve Forever, Marvel Comics #1000
STEVE: Fruits Basket, Harry Potter Series, Dragon Quest 6, Final Fantasy X-2

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STRONG FEMALE CHARACTER

New trailer for Terminator: Dark Fate

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THIS WEEK IN QUEER

Eternals’ unnamed gay hero will be married and have a family

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CLIP OF THE WEEK

New trailer for Joker

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THE WEEK IN GEEK

MOVIES

First look at characters from Disney’s Raya and the Last Dragon
• New Star Wars: The Rise of Skywalker teases darkside Rey

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TV

• New teaser trailer for Disenchantment Part Two
• New trailer for The I-Land
• New trailer for season 2 of Titans

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VIDEO GAMES

Pokemon Sword & Shield’s Gym Battles will be more of a spectacle

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SHILF

• KEVIN: Guy Gardner
• STEVE: Kyle Rayner

Queer Comics Review: Emma Jayne’s Trans Girls Hit the Town

Trans Girls Hit the Town is a potent and amusing comic about an evening between a transitioned transgender woman, Winnie, and a more recently transitioned woman, Chloe. The sensitive portrayal of how the introspective Chloe navigates her evening is thoughtful. The story shows her anxiety, in a distinct character-driven manner, with frustration regarding how she deals with being in public spaces: a train, a restaurant, a bar, the street. She never knows if the next person she meets will be polite, or think she is an abomination. She encounters about equal parts of both.


Personal anecdote time. The narrative reminds me of a similar experience I had the night Sasha Velour won Drag Race. I attended a gay bar, saw her win, and then needed to go to a straight social space for a birthday party. I was bedecked in a glittery necklace, about a dozen rainbow bracelets, and a black shirt with “Sashay Away” in pink glitter on it. I was high on Sasha’s triumph, I didn’t even think about what I was doing, and where I was going. Feeling completely out of place like a big gay thumb, I was surprised to find the one out queer-identified person in the party approach me to say he liked my look. Trans Girls Hit the Town is a smart risograph comic that will resonate with every queer individual who has entered a heterocentric bar, and is relieved to be joined by someone with a shared experience.


There is a moment where our two protagonists enter a similar large space, as one says, where “there is no place to hide.” In this work, Emma Jayne finds a place of comfort for her main character in a one-person bathroom. But, the evening starts with her on public transit feeling aware of her gender dysphora, and being stared down by a stranger. Or, perhaps that’s just her perception of the circumstance. She does not feel comfortable in herself, much less cute. The discomfort is present from the start, but intensifies when the two go to this bar together. The perspective is from Chloe the whole time, wearing a crystal necklace around her neck and a modest dress, she wants so badly to pass. She is impressed by Winnie’s confidence. All she wants is to derive a little part of that. The fear of being identified as trans, or “clocked,” is prevalent throughout. It’s a sincere recounting of a young woman feeling herself through an uncomfortable social situation, though she wants so badly to succeed. We are put firmly in her shoes.


Upsettingly, she takes her frustration on Winnie. Just trying to take her friend for a safe night out, she awakes unexpected anger from Chloe, which is recovered. This comic is relatable for anyone experiencing social anxiety. More specifically, it speaks to suffering the gender dysphora that is experienced through being newly transitioned.


All that having been said there are humorous highlights. There is an ongoing thread connecting their conversations to the X-Men. Winnie compares strength to that of Wolverine’s, and the ladies play the arcade game “Z-Peeps,” having a dispute over who gets to pay Dazzler. The best gag happens when they leave the restaurant where they start their night. As they prepare to pay the bill, the man at the register says, “Anything else I get for you tonight, gentlemen?” with a look of scorn. The total comes to $22.05. They leave a tip of -$22.05, and sign the bill “fuck you <3.” It’s also refreshing to have to look up terms I am unfamiliar with. I can say this is likely to be the only comic to motivate you to look up “muffing” and “Rose of Versailles mace.” I’ll leave it to you to look them up, but I love that they name the mascot of trans sex “Mark Muffalo.”


Please buy Emma Jayne’s comic in hard copy here. You can also find it in a name-your-own-price digital edition here.

The Geeks OUT Podcast: D23 – The Mighty Disney

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In this week’s super-sized episode of the Geeks OUT Podcast, Kevin is joined by Anthony Hargraves, as they discuss some of their favorite moments from Flame Con, review the announcements from D23 Expo (Ms. Marvel, She-Hulk, etc…) & celebrate Disney Channel’s new Moon Girl & Devil Dinosaur as our Strong Female Character of the Week.

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BIG OPENING

KEVIN: Ms. Marvel, She-Hulk, and Moon Knight series coming to Disney+
ANTHONY: New trailer for The Politician

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DOWN AND NERDY

KEVIN: Scary Stories to Tell in the Dark, Batman: Hush, Super Mario U. Deluxe
JON: Shantae and the Seven Sirens is Coming! Guilty Mobile Phone Games

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STRONG FEMALE CHARACTER

Disney Channel orders a Moon Girl and Devil Dinosaur animated series

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THIS WEEK IN QUEER

Marvel makes Mystique and Destiny official

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CLIP OF THE WEEK

New trailer for Lady & the Tramp live-action remake

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THE WEEK IN GEEK

MOVIES

New trailer for Underwater
• New trailer for Antlers
• Matrix 4 in the works with Lana Wachowski and more returning
• Sony & Disney in conflict over Spider-Man’s future
• Black Panther 2 gets a 2022 release date
• More cast revealed for The Eternals
• First look at Cruella
• New poster for Star Wars: The Rise of Skywalker

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TV

• New cast details for Falcon & the Winter Soldier
• New trailer for The Mandelorian
Obi-Wan Kenobi series coming to Disney+
• Netflix orders Masters of the Universe animated series
• Starz orders wrestling series Heels starring Stephen Amell

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VIDEO GAMES

SonicFox does live Twitch stream to raise money for Trevor Project
Mario & Sonic at the Olympic Games to have classic mode

Geeks OUT Board Interview #1 – Steve Gianaca

We here at Geeks OUT want you, the reader, to know more about who we are. To help with that, we’ve started interviewing members of our board so you know what makes us tick. Here’s our first interview!


Who are you and what do you do for Geeks OUT?
I’m Steve Gianaca. I’m the Vice President of Geeks OUT and current chair of Flame Con.
How did you first get involved?
I found Geeks OUT while visiting PAX East in Boston almost 6 years ago. I found out they were local to NYC and emailed to get involved. I had a “small world” moment when my coworker emailed me at home shortly afterward. I thought there was a work emergency, but it turned out my coworker of two years in NYC was actually the founder of the non-profit I found in Boston, Geeks OUT. I’ve been involved ever since.
What makes you geek out?
So much! I love comics, fantasy and sci-fi of course, but my biggest nerd-hobby is gaming. Final Fantasy, Dragon Quest, Kingdom Hearts, Pokemon, Pikmin, Mortal Kombat, Katamari… the list goes on and on and on.
What fictional character had the most inspirational story arc to you and why?
Tohru Honda from Fruits Baskets comes to mind. In a world where others may intimidate you, the strength to compete can be found in kindness, compassion and growth.
What book/tv show/comic/etc are you enjoying now?
I’m currently diving down the rabbit hole and playing the original Dragon Quest games before 11 comes out on Switch.
What are your favorite geeky past times?
My yearly sojourn to PAX East is one of my favorite palette-cleansers from the stresses of life.
What’s Something underrated you think could use a shout out?
Local gamer meetups! I personally love the low-key atmosphere at Rockbar in NYC every Saturday from 3-9.
Who do you ship?
Axel and Roxas from Kingdom Hearts. Or Luxord and anyone Luxord is currently talking to, from Kingdom Hearts. He’s too swarthy for his own good.
What fictional setting would you most want to live in?
Send me to the Pokemon world please!
Who would your bff be?
In the pokemon world? I’d love a clique with Cynthia and Wallace.
What was your introduction to geekdom?
When I was in preschool, my older brother would sometimes setup my dad’s ancient and barely-working Intellivision. It was my first exposure to video games, quickly followed by the NES and Gameboy.


We hope you dug this interview and hope to see a bunch of you at Flame Con this weekend!

The Geeks OUT Podcast: Thots on the 90’s

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In this week’s super sized episode of the Geeks OUT Podcast, Kevin and Lynaé DePriest preview some of the things they’re looking forward to seeing at Flame Con this year, discuss their 90’s nostalgia with the new trailer for The Addams Family, and celebrate the trans storyline in Rocko’s Modern Life: Static Cling in This Week in Queer.

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FLAME CON BIG OPENING

KEVIN: Panel: We’re Here, But Not Just Queer   Performance: Spellbound Strings, Panfandom (Queer &)   Workshop: Cosplay for Beginners Demo: Xbox Adaptive Controller   Special Guest: Tana Ford, DJ Kirkland Vendor: Astonishing Queer Tales, Jennie Wood, Doable Guys
LYNAÉ: Panel: Leveraging Labels   Performance: Bonfire, Cosplay Contest     Workshop: Take Pride: Create Your Own Flag  Demo: Intro to Smash Bros. Special Guest: Food 4 Thot  Vendor: Night Owl Designs

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DOWN AND NERDY

KEVIN: Detective Pikachu, Two Sentence Horror Stories, Young Justice, Super Mario U Deluxe
LYNAÉ: Rocko’s Modern Life, American Ninja Warrior

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STRONG FEMALE CHARACTER

ABC announces The Little Mermaid Live

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THIS WEEK IN QUEER

Rocko’s Modern Life: Static Cling has a transgender storyline

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CLIP OF THE WEEK

New trailer for The Addams Family animated movie

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THE WEEK IN GEEK

MOVIES

Andy Serkis to direct Venom 2
• Disney+ to “reimagine” Home Alone, Night at the Museum, and more
• New trailer for Wonder Woman: Bloodlines
• First look at live-action Lady and the Tramp cast
• Universal cancels the release of The Hunt

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TV

• Game of Thrones creators sign Netflix deal
Disney+ announces bundle with Hulu & ESPN+
• New trailer for Carnival Row
• Amazon developing series based on Event Horizon
• New teaser for season 2 of Titans
• New trailer for Katy Keene
Crisis on Infinite Earths adds more characters

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COMIC BOOKS

Superman reminds fans of his stance on immigration and refugees

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SHILF

• KEVIN: Foxy Love
• LYNAÉ: Foxy Brown

The Geeks OUT Podcast: Aquaman Queers Up Atlantis

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In this week’s episode of the Geeks OUT Podcast, Kevin is joined by Jon Herzog, as they discuss Aquaman (formerly Aqualad) finding queer love in the ocean deep on Young Justice: Outsiders, check out the teaser trailer for the Are You Afraid of the Dark revival, and celebrate Gal Gadot playing Hedy Lamarr as our Strong Female Character of the Week.

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BIG OPENING

KEVIN: Stephen King writing a new ending for The Stand limited series
JON: Teaser trailer out for Are You Afraid of the Dark? revival on Nickelodeon

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DOWN AND NERDY

KEVIN: Agents of SHIELD, She-Ra & the Princesses of Power, Twelve Forever, Powers of X
JON: The Boys (show and comic!), Good Omens, Loki, Lois Lane

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STRONG FEMALE CHARACTER

Gal Gadot to star in new Hedy Lamarr limited series

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THIS WEEK IN QUEER

Young Justice: Outsiders confirms Aquaman’s queer identity

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CLIP OF THE WEEK

New trailer for Little Monsters

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THE WEEK IN GEEK

MOVIES

New trailer for The Hunt
• Sif wants to be Valkyrie’s queen in Thor: Love & Thunder
• New Gods movie to feature Darkseid and his Furies

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TV

• CBS All Access orders adaptation of The Man Who Fell to Earth
• New season of Runaways to feature crossover with Cloak & Dagger
• HBO Max orders Circe series based on the fantasy novel
• Sam Witwer joins Riverdale
• New teaser for The Walking Dead spinoff
• New trailer for season 2 of Mindhunter
• Cast announced for Joss Whedon’s The Nevers
• New teaser for AHS: 1984

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COMIC BOOKS

• Tyra Banks turning Modelland into graphic novel

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SHILF

• KEVIN: Adora/She-Ra
• JON: Annie/Starlight from The Boys

Review: Letters for Lucardo: Fortunate Beasts

Letters for Lucardo: Fortunate Beasts is the second book of the acclaimed Iron Circus graphic novel series by Otava Heikkila. I wrote a review of the first book for Geeks OUT back in 2017; you may want to start there if you’re thinking of reading the series. This review will contain some unavoidable spoilers for the ending of Letters for Lucardo. Fortunate Beasts was funded through Kickstarter in late 2018.

Fortunate Beasts opens with a brief passage set seven years in the future before cutting back to the aftermath of Letters for Lucardo. When Lucardo confronts his father about sending Ed away, things quickly escalate. The ensuing fight pulls back the curtain a little bit more on the true nature of Lucardo’s family and the Night Court. Lucardo ignores his father’s warnings and immediately begins searching for Ed. It isn’t long before Ed’s quiet new life is disrupted. Lucardo then brings Ed back to the Night Court in the most boisterous and public way possible, setting the stage for a showdown with his father.

One of my favorite this about this series is how the sex is a natural part of the story. It really goes against the grain of puritanical notions about sex that are embedded in our society. Heikkila is also particularly adept at including some delightfully awkward and funny moments that make the sex scenes feel really lived in. If you were to take away the erotic scenes, you would still be left with a touching story. But that story would be missing a pivotal part of what drives the relationship between these two men.

Fortunate Beasts is a more than worthy follow up to its predecessor. It added even more emotional depth to the characters, revealed more about the world of the Night Court, and left me really excited for the third book in the series. Both books are available now through the Iron Circus store.

The Geeks OUT Podcast: Geeks OUT’s Modern Life

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In this week’s episode of the Geeks OUT Podcast, Kevin is joined by Chi-town’s own Eric Green, as they discuss the new trailer for the Rocko’s Modern Life revival movie, wonder if Nickelodeon Slime will take over the ISS, and celebrate the new writer/artist for TMNT, Sophie Campbell, as our Strong Female Character of the Week.

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BIG OPENING

KEVIN: New trailer for Rocko’s Modern Life: Static Cling
ERIC: Nickelodeon Slime sent to space

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DOWN AND NERDY

KEVIN: Lion King, The Boys, Fearless
ERIC: House of X #1, John Wyndham novels

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STRONG FEMALE CHARACTER

Sophie Campbell taking over as writer/artist for TMNT

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THIS WEEK IN QUEER

New trailer for Why Women Kill

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CLIP OF THE WEEK

New teaser trailer for JoJo Rabbit

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THE WEEK IN GEEK

MOVIES

New trailer for Gemini Man
• New trailer for Zombieland: Double Tap

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TV

• The Expanse renewed on Amazon
Carnival Row renewed for season 2 ahead of premiere
The Handmaid’s Tale renewed for 4th season
Big Mouth renewed for three more seasons
Lucifer’s 5th season expanded to 16 episodes
• AMC developing graphic novel Farmland
• Hulu is developing The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy series
• Netflix cancels Tuca and Bertie
• New trailer for Wu Assassins
• New teaser for season 3 of Runaways
• New teaser for season 2 of The Purge

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COMIC BOOKS

• DC releasing Year of the Villain acetate covers
House of X & Powers of X to have color coded logos

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SHILF

• KEVIN: Havok
• ERIC: Cyclops

Opening in 2020 – Alexander’s Monument to Hephaestion is a New Queer History Pilgrimage

Hephaistion by L Gullo

Hephaestion was the life partner and general of Alexander the Great, one of the most legendary conquerors in human history. I don’t use “life partner” as a veiled term for lover – he was never described in the texts we have as Alexander’s eromenos or erastes like his Persian courtesan, Bagoas. Hephaistion and Alexander are generally thought to have been lovers by most historians, but more importantly, they truly were partners in life. Hephaestion was a crucial part in Alexander’s success over a series of decades, not only in the role he played through military campaigns, but also as Alexander’s dearest confidant. 

Sarcophagus detail of Hephaestion hunting a stag from ancient.eu

We do not have any evidence to suggest Hephaestion had any romantic or sexual partners at all, and only married a wife who had been assigned to him by Alexander as a political act to help integrate Persian culture into their court. As queer people who may have known a person larger than life as Alexander, we can extrapolate that if their relationship was romantic but not sexual, Hephaistion may have been asexual, and Alexander may have taken Bagoas as a sexual partner to fill those particular needs. 


Several people who knew Alexander personally wrote of their experiences with him, but unfortunately these direct sources have been lost to us, and we only have third party accounts from narrators of varying degrees of reliability. Therefore any extrapolation we can make are just like any knowledge we have of him at all – extrapolations. 


But it cannot be denied that Hephaestion was Alexander’s dearest and closest partner through life. 

In 2012, a regal tomb in the Macedonian style was discovered in Northern Greece, as part of a larger complex being explored since the 1970s. The Kasta Tomb. They’re still researching and exploring just who’s remains are interned there, but in 2015 Hephaestion’s monogram was found.  The lead archeologist Katerina Peristeri says this is evidence that the whole tomb is a funerary monument for Hephaestion, built between 325–300 BC.


When Hephaestion died, Alexander began the downward emotional spiral that would eventually lead to his own death, 8 months later. Those 8 months were occupied with petitioning the oracle of Siwa to grant divine status to Hephaestion, which was granted. Hephaestion would be worshipped for centuries to come as a divine hero. Cults dedicated to honoring real people who had achieved divine status were eventually wiped out by the Christian empire in an unforgivable homogenization of spirituality from which we have yet to recover. The cult of Antinous, another king’s beloved who was worshipped by large swaths of people from various countries, was another victim of this eradication. Now, with a monument honoring Hephaestion discovered, we can take up that mantle again if we choose. 


Regardless of your feelings about Alexander’s campaign (He was after all a conqueror, though arguably a conqueror of a different sort than those previously mentioned.) his glorification of Hephaestion in death was a lasting and spiritual tribute to same sex devotion. 


The Kasta tomb is due to open to the public in 2020, and I will be watching for updates when the time comes. It is time we began to have our pilgrimage sites to visit, tragic and celebratory, modern and ancient, active and dormant. These are world-changing monuments to the power of our love, and they are part of our heritage as LGBT people. We are a people who have been violently and systematically isolated from spirituality, religion, and our own histories. It is time to reclaim them. If you visit this beautiful monument in 2020 or beyond, do not think of it as crumbling traces of a past civilization.  Think of it as a living monument built for you, by a man who wanted his beloved friend to be celebrated. 


Resources for further research:

https://greece.greekreporter.com/2015/09/30/hephaestions-monogram-found-at-amphipolis-tomb/
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kasta_Tomb